we think a connection with the opposite gender is love, when it is simply infatuation.
Consider the four points below in not only creating real love but sustaining it.
- Love yourself. This is the first and most critical passage to attain a truly rewarding and sustainable love. When you are at the point of knowing, accepting and loving yourself then you are in a position to truly love another. In particular you’re in a great position to know the type of partner you can spend your life with in harmony and with joy.
- Choose to love; it really isn’t something that just comes from hormones or overwhelming emotion. Whilst this can be an exciting component of love – there is also the need to make a conscious decision to love another human being, just as you can make a deliberate choice to love your body, your friend or yourself. In this way, you can generate the level of commitment required to sustain a loving relationship over time.
- Learn good communication skills. Remember, there are always differences between two people no matter how extraordinary and special the relationship. The key is to identify these, tackle them, communicate and deal with them – don’t let them fester.
- Create intimacy; this is a way that you can develop trust and intensify your connection. The more connected you are with yourself and others, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. Love is the best antidote for all kinds of ailments.
Remember... the greatest gift you will ever learn – is to love and be loved in return.